Educated Mother Can’t Stop Placing Others First?
June 10th, 2007 | by Michael |nicci4motherhood asked:
Hello all, I'm sending the e-mail for advice on something that is really annoying. My whole life I feel like I have to take care of everything else, I was a mother substitute for someone, I taught childbirth and assisted the births as a doula for the fees very low, I take calls after childbirth support in the mid of the night and take care of all my children 's of the Fundraisers, the functions of the family and even my schoolwork comes before everything that I never take care … I had 6 kids and my life is so busy but I still assist the PTA meetings of breast-feeding, I teach at my house in childbirth, infant massage are and I have a watch in my childhood home … because I have to take so much … I have OCD? We have very little money and barely scraping we are close, otherwise study the possibility of seeing a consultant for that. I'm almost thirty and I have to calculate out how to change my eating habits and exersize more but I have absolutely no time. How can I achieve everything but this still does not make the changes?
Hello all, I'm sending the e-mail for advice on something that is really annoying. My whole life I feel like I have to take care of everything else, I was a mother substitute for someone, I taught childbirth and assisted the births as a doula for the fees very low, I take calls after childbirth support in the mid of the night and take care of all my children 's of the Fundraisers, the functions of the family and even my schoolwork comes before everything that I never take care … I had 6 kids and my life is so busy but I still assist the PTA meetings of breast-feeding, I teach at my house in childbirth, infant massage are and I have a watch in my childhood home … because I have to take so much … I have OCD? We have very little money and barely scraping we are close, otherwise study the possibility of seeing a consultant for that. I'm almost thirty and I have to calculate out how to change my eating habits and exersize more but I have absolutely no time. How can I achieve everything but this still does not make the changes?
2 Responses to “Educated Mother Can’t Stop Placing Others First?”
By Mad S on Jun 11, 2007 | Reply
I wouldn’t call it OCD. It does sound like you are a people pleaser and need to feel needed. It is hard to make the changes cause you are in so deep. You have to have time to do those things which leaves nothing for you. You will have to cut something out. Make a list of the what you want to keep the most and try to cut something, even if it only gives you 10 mins here and there. You can also plan your day by a written schedule ( I did this before myself-I have 4 kids under the age of 6, do all the chores and work 3rd shift. I am gone 10 hour s,sleep 3.5hours in the morning and maybe get 1.5 hours at evening (not by choice, but by financial neccessity) After getting really ill for 6months strait, I decided that the lifestyle had to go and I cut down a lot of things. I now do the minimum housework necessary etc. Good luck to you. I know it is hard.
By very important pig club on Jun 14, 2007 | Reply
B/c obviously you are getting something emotionally and psychologically from this. Also, you obviously don’t value yourself and place others before you. You need to get counseling b/c otherwise you are teaching your children to follow in your footsteps.