Why do some men refuse to play child support?
January 8th, 2006 | by Michael |
trer asked:
I know that most men take care of their children even after their split with his wife, but how? possible that some men at least monitarily not support their children? As you can introduce the life in this world and then force the child if arranged before it is ready?
I know that most men take care of their children even after their split with his wife, but how? possible that some men at least monitarily not support their children? As you can introduce the life in this world and then force the child if arranged before it is ready?
10 Responses to “Why do some men refuse to play child support?”
By nessa588 on Jan 9, 2006 | Reply
they are selfish…. But then again, there are women like that too, not many, but there are a few.
By yellow_tofu on Jan 10, 2006 | Reply
Im not ****** or an thing but it tends to be black people they dont pay child Support. A reason is people just dont care any more, I would never even think about not paying for my child if i had one and was serperated, but i would also expect to see the child as much as possible. sometimes the mother doesnt let the fater see the baby, so he doesnt pay.
By AudreyMarlene on Jan 11, 2006 | Reply
There are several reasons why.
1. They are irresponsible and cannot budget their money well enough to make sure their kids are taken care of. They lose their jobs, etc etc.
2. A new woman comes along and demands the attention and he forgets his responsibility to his children.
3. They use it as a control tool with the ex not stopping to think of the children.
4. They have lost of sense of self in the divorce that they feel that becasue they are the absent parent it’s not that important.
Whatever the reasons that men financially abandon their children after a divorce, it’s all for selfish reasons. That is why it’s important that the child support should be paid through the courts where it can be monitored.
By bebites2000 on Jan 14, 2006 | Reply
could be that they no that money wont go to the kids
could be that when they have 7/14 they don’t want to pay more
could be that they don’t care anymore,, not good but there are ______ people in this world
By April W on Jan 15, 2006 | Reply
I think the root is in that society in general does not value fathers. There are many single mothers who really believe that a father is not necessary or even preferable - fathers are expendable. The courts don’t help either by rarely granting custody. This contributes to a general culture where men are belittled and viewed only as a source of income without the added benefits of fatherhood. Have this for decades and eventually many men will not take their role seriously because it wasn’t demanded of their father.
By shortstuff1968 on Jan 17, 2006 | Reply
Some men are scared, some are just, no offense guys, not ready to be a daddy, if you can lay down and make a baby, be man enough to help raise it or at least support it…because that is true in both cases…females too! There are alot of good men out there who do what they are suppose to and don’t get recognized for it…All men get judged by one misfit and that is not right!! Every man is an individual and needs to be treated as such…Every female is an individual and needs to be treated as such, as well!! I could go on but I think I got my point across…just my opinion!!! Doesn’t mean its the right answer!!! There are a ton of good fathers out there who don’t get the recognition they deserve….they aren’t there just for money..they have hearts and emotions too!!! and most of them DO love their children but their***** ex does evrerything she can to belittle him….when she in fact is the *** one!!! Every case is different!
By gowri s on Jan 20, 2006 | Reply
They may be selfish
By brittani29 on Jan 23, 2006 | Reply
I am in this position. And to be honest it is down right (&(*&^*^(&*&^* horrible for a man to be that way. In most cases the man is trying to hurt the ex and in fact financially seems to be the only way at times.
They dont realize that the kids suffer too. My ex is also not visiting the kids when he is suppose to, so trust me it has a huge effect on the kids.
I can adjust to the finances and make other choices but in the end it does hurt us all around. Medical bills, day care, day to day living.
Besides if you have a private divorce (not state funded) you have to pay (again) retainer fees, and lawyer fees to go after your ex legally (for lack of childsupport). Sometimes it feels like you will never get ahead.
Mind you I have 2 boys whom would love a relationship with their father. I divorced my ex he just seems to think that included him divorcing his children and all financially/emotional stability for them too. We have a court order for the child support and he still gets out of it….
By Tasha on Jan 25, 2006 | Reply
I know it’s not fair. They’re selfish b’ards and all they think about is themselves. From what I’ve heard come out of guys mouths, they are trying to hurt the mother and they don’t wanna give her money cuz they’re sure they’ll spend it on themselves.
By Princess on Jan 26, 2006 | Reply
Sometimes women have kids just so they can get child support money. Just because someone doesn’t pay child support, doesn’t necessarily mean they’re selfish. Sometimes it’s really the mom that’s being selfish.